Being a parent involves many responsibilities, one of which is the education of children. This is a very complex task that may require both patience and attention from both father and mother. If several educations are applied today, positive and benevolent education are the most appreciated. But what is the difference between these two forms of education?
What is positive education?
Most parents nowadays opt for a positive upbringing or a caring upbringing. Although the latter have some differences, positive education is based on benevolence and is strictly opposed to any anger, spanking, punishment. In order to adopt this education, parents must first and foremost meet the needs of the child. You can then set some limits on it, in a respectful way.
The anxieties, refusals and anger expressed by children are motivated by a reason and must be understood in order to act on it. In this specific case, positive education would require parents to take the time to listen to the child, to understand him in order to support him. Clearly, to apply positive education, you have to question your own education and then change your outlook as well as the way you act.
What is caring education?
Benevolent education aims to support and accompany the child both emotionally and socially. It is about showing indulgence and empathy towards the child when the latter performs an act that would require punishment. This promotes three essential points in children:
- Internal security
To better practice benevolent education, it is important to learn about neuroscience and development related to the brain of children. This will allow you to better understand certain acts of the latter and therefore to be indulgent.
How to choose between these two educations?
You will understand, positive education is based on communication, non-violence, encouragement of children. The parent should respect their needs and apologize when needed. As for benevolent education, this mainly consists of being compassionate by avoiding punishing the child for his mistakes. The goal is to favor dialogue.
Rather than choosing between the two options, it is recommended to combine them. To do this, always take their needs into account, listen and pay attention to their emotions. Avoid judgments as much as possible, get him to cooperate rather than demand obedience, and trust him. Finally, set limits, because it’s not about giving in to everything, and with respect.